Suede and Sunshade

  • Never expose your pain!

    (Originally Posted On Opulence in the Divine)

    Never expose your pain! 

    Isaiah 40:29 He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless. (NLT) 

    Introduction 

    Hi babes, welcome back to my blog Opulence in the Divine! This post will be a lot shorter to what I normally write, shorter than the last post. I think of this one to introduce a series of posts I want to make about the healing process. I am going in this with no outline and spit balling from my soul. Without further ado, here is Never expose your pain!  

    Clarification on what I mean. 

    I do not want to come across as saying that you should bottle up your emotions. Fighting silent battles only increases feelings of isolation and stalls your healing! What I mean is that you should only show your pain to those who care and have your best interest at heart!  

    The uncertainty of exposing your pain to strangers and the danger of exposing your pain to enemies.

     You might think pain is something that should be avoided, but you must experience it to grow. Pain is a form of energy that comes from the heart, much like love. Also, like love, not everyone deserves to share your pain. It’s no question that the internet and social media has become an entire world on its own. Connecting people who you wouldn’t ever meet organically. This in itself is not wrong, as there have been many meaningful relationships that have started online, platonic and romantic alike. The issue is everyone is not your friend and/or lover. Strangers can be wolves and sheep’s clothing, not only that, exposing your vulnerability to people who could care less is just unnecessary.  

    Now, enemies. You might be thinking “Well that’s stupid to show people who hurt you your hurt”. It’s not stupid, it’s a mistake. Think about this. Let’s say someone ghosted you through text but you still follow each other on social media, your shocked and hurt that they did that, but they seem to be going on happily posting as if nothing happened. Now you start to post shady and cryptic messages in an effort to A) hope they see it and feel bad and B) still stay connected to this person. You want them to “share” your pain. Well, it’s not sharing if the pain is not reciprocated. Worse, you’re exposing your vulnerability and letting that person know that they have power over you. That was oddly specific. It’s an example I can give you from my own experience of being in pain.   

    So, for the love of God, please do not vent about, cry about, or lash out your pain to strangers or enemies on social media!  

    Surrounding yourself with loved ones and angels! 

    As said, don’t expose your pain to anybody, but don’t hide it either from those who truly love you. Sharing your pain is not about them taking on your struggle. Rather offering you a safe space where you can find comfort in knowing that you are not alone.  

    Wrap-up and final thoughts! 

    And scene! Okay this was a pretty informal one. I wrote this while at work, and I just wanted to say what was in my heart for real. Now I know I probably sound hypocritical when I say don’t share stuff with strangers then I go and share something personal with strangers. Well for one, I don’t consider you all strangers because the only people who read these are my close family and friends. Two, it’s my way of showing you that we all are human. I really cannot talk about issues and give advice if I haven’t experienced them firsthand. Well babes, I am tired. I hope you all stay blessed and beautiful. Take care, see you in the next one! 

    Love and Kisses Always! 

    XOXOXO 

    -Syd 

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  • Always seek righteous men!

    (Originally Posted on Opulence in the Divine)

    I’m here to give the advice I wish I had in far past and in the near past. I want to be a girl’s girl. For all women, young and mature alike. Even though I am still young, I have been through the fire with men. There are great men out there, but there are a whole lot of shitty ones. Today, I am going to explain what a worldly man is and why should avoid them. Then I am going to explain what a righteous man is and how to seek them!  

    Part 1: Avoiding Worldly Men!

    “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.” (1 John 2:15-16, NIV)

    To keep it real, a worldly man is moved by his penis, his eyes, and his pride! Let me break it down and give some tips on how to avoid these men:

    1.    The Voodoo that you do!

    Think of a snake charmer. He plays a flute, and a snake rises out of the bag. You might think how cool that is. And the snake that comes out of the bag might be the most beautiful, alluring, and longest snake you have ever seen! (You get the symbolism?) But don’t be tranced girl. Ole Peter Piper has a motive. To lead you all astray and fulfill only his desires. That snake may be beautiful, but it is a snake, nonetheless. A crafty and cunning creature. All men got them, but only a few know how to tame them. Never trust a man whose snake got dominion over them! Much like how the serpent tricked Eve, sex can trick a woman into bad decisions. Avoid men who only want your time when they want sex. Also, have your guard up with words, the flute. The song that he is playing may be of sunshine and roses, but is it genuine? Or is it just an illusion?

    2. Ebony eyes, oh my!

    “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light.But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” (Mathew 6:22-23).

    What does it mean to have “lust of the eyes”? At first glance, I thought it meant to see a beautiful person and lust after them. It certainly means that’s. Go ahead and add the saying “eyes are the windows to the soul” to this examination. We see all with our eyes, not just physical beauty or sexual desire. Lust means uncontrollable desire for anything, power, riches, fame, status, extravagance. All these things come from the world, while these things are not inherently bad, they should not be the love(s) of your life! Avoid men who eyes only see worldly vices. As women, avoid these worldly vices yourselves, because they mean no good. See, I keep it real with both sexes. I got to give women some flack here because a lot of us perpetuate this crap and keep it going. My girl Eve said that the fruit of the tree of knowledge was “pleasing to the eye”.  Now look where we at. We got to push out babies with watermelon heads out of a hole the size of a pea. Let’s take it to modern times. I won’t say names here but look at a lot of women who promote “getting the bag” culture. Who date men only for their money, what they can provide for them materialistically, and/or how can they elevate in life because of a man. These men, more often than not, only see those women as sex objects and trophies. Please, let go of worldly status symbols.

    2. Pride and prejudice!

    “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18 NIV).

    We reach the “pride of life”. God really hates pride, after all it’s the first on the list of seven deadly sins. When you look on Bible Study Tools for verses on pride. It lists thirty, none of them positive. So, what is pride exactly? Dictionay.com defines pride as “a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.” So, what do these big words mean in layman’s terms. Arrogance and judgment. To be prideful is a loss in humility, and humility sounds a lot like humanness. And what’s the opposite of  humanness, godliness. And there it is! Seeking to be God is the bane of all. When we take pride in worldly things, we have turned away our humility. We have placed the world over God and the divine. So, this one is simple; Don’t date a prideful man! A man that loves the artificial world and takes pride in this love is one you should surely avoid.

    Part 2: Seeking a righteous man!

    1.   Chasing vs Seeking!

    “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeramiah 29:13, NIV)

    A lady should not chase a man, its unladylike, seriously. I am all for switching up gender roles, but when it comes to this, no ma’am. Let a man do all that huffing and puffing if they want to be with you. A lady should never sweat! And chasing isn’t bad. Its masculine and  shows determination. “But wait Sydney, didn’t you say lust of the eyes is bad and all?” I did, but keep in mind, the first thing you see in a person is their beauty. It’s about digging deeper. This is where the divide of love and lust form. A man getting to know you because they see something more than a pretty face! They see virtues and divineness. And generally, want to seek a meaningful relationship. Qualities of righteous men. Us women hold the power of seeking! “Ain’t that the same thing as chasing?” Nope. When you seek you are looking, but stationary. You don’t see me breaking a sweat do you? Women vet out partners, you have patience in choosing the right one. This is a feminine virtue. Never rush and show desperation! Cuz worldly men can smell that shit like a dog, and when you lie with dogs, you get flees!

    2. This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!

    “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16, NIV)

    You, my sister. Are a precious little beacon of pure light. This is a light from the Lord. Never dim your light! But only allow the righteous, the worthy to take comfort in it. There are many demons out there to steal your light. What’s good about the light from God, is that it can be used as a defense. When you exude goodness and divinity, demons will be cast away from you. So please, be the best person you can be! Have good morals. Never lower them! As lowering them is diming your light and allowing demons to easily enter. God will send a righteous man your way. Remember, God’s timing is always right!

    3.   A man after His own Heart!

    “My beloved is mine, and I am his” (Song of Soloman 2:16)

    What makes a man righteous? A righteous man plays no games when it comes to love. He is clear, concise, and firm about what he wants. He doesn’t come with baggage, because that was throw out in the trash long ago. He is not ruled by lust, or worldly vices, or pride. He is a humble but strong man. They love the natural world of natural virtues. Truth be told, he got a light too, and he does not take from you, but combines with you. Thats how God is. God wants you to be part of his kingdom, his light. A blessed union is a divine union. And that my friends, is what makes a man righteous!

    Thank you for taking the time to listen! All of your support warms me up inside. Share it with anyone who might need this!

    Vaya Con Dios! And Prosper!

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