(Originally Published On Opulence in the Divine)

*Trigger Warnings: Mentions of Abuse, Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault, and Bullying* 

*I am not a Licensed Mental Health Professional. This is just my advice. I highly encourage professional help. I supply links through this post to professional help sites.* 

Women carry many gifts, but the greatest gift of all, is feminine energy. Feminine energy exists as a balance of emotions, beauty and intelligence. For without this divine energy, the world would be in chaos more than it already is.

Unfortunately, this energy can be syphoned from us. Whenever it be though bad spirits or by our own misguidance. Letting ourselves heal is the key into reclaiming our energy and living 

Healing the Feminine Part 1: Identifying Soul Scars and Trauma Sources   

It is easy to see a paper cut on your finger, put a Band-Aid on it, and in a week the cut is healed. With soul scars, you can’t see them, but you certainly can feel them. More often than not, they don’t heal. When it comes to abuse, domestic violence and sexual assault, it is clear to see the cause of soul scars. More often than not, a lot of woman keep these trauma sources to themselves, thinking burying the incident(s) deep in their minds will fix said issue. When in reality, burying only makes the scars deeper and deeper.

There are some traumas that may go unrecognized, but still leave scars, nevertheless. For example, maybe you were bullied in school for your weight, your looks, the way you dress, the way you speak, your popularity, your interests, the list goes on.

Let me give you an example, picture a girl in middle school. She is quite a bit bigger than the other girls. Often picked on for her size. She started to take an interest in boys. She was told that boys liked her, but they were too embarrassed to admit it.

Let me go further, high school. That innate feeling boys only talked to her because they wanted that “one thing”. That big girls were “easy”. Spinning lies claiming they liked her and loved to her to get that “one thing”, and when she shared that “one thing”, they would ghost her. 

So now, as a women, she can’t help but ask every man she dates, “So do you really like me or just want sex”. 

That girl was me, and that woman is me. 

Like a lot of women, I didn’t realize this scar was there and so deep until I started exploring myself. My feminine energy, of off my own misguidance, was syphoned from me from me. However, you must fall in order to rise, and when I was at my lowest, I decided I was going to reclaim it for my well-being. 

Think of taking this vow “I am going to reclaim my feminine energy”, as Step Zero.

Healing the Feminine Part 2: Preparing to Remove Soul Scars

Think of this not as a physical surgery, but as a mental one. Here are a list of tools you need for this “procedure”.

• Community
• Hobbies/Interests
• Journaling
• Self-Love
• Therapy (optional)
• Spirituality (optional)

Healing the Feminine Part 3: The “procedure” at work

1. Step 1 (Community): Surround yourself with the people you enjoy, and the people who enjoy you back. If this be your family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, pets, it can be anybody who brings you comfort in life. Do not be afraid to go out into the world alone. Find activities to attend. Use sites like eventbrite.com to search for social activities in your area and attend them. Most likely, you will find new friends and acquaintances. Be social at your own pace. If you are like me and are shy by nature, take it slow and be your authentic self! 
2. Step 2 (Hobbies/Interests): Take up some new hobbies, or revisit old ones you might have fallen off from. Having an outlet for enjoyment, or an outlet for hard times really is an expression of your emotions, beauty, and intelligence, all make up your feminine energy!
3. Step 3 (Journaling): I put this separate from hobbies because while journaling can be a hobby. It certainly is for me. It can be used as a form of therapy. For reasons such as being unable to afford a therapist or not being comfortable talking to one. Your journal acts as your therapist, having a safe space with no judgment. An outlet for venting and communication. Look at the different ways of journaling. Traditional diary entries, junk journaling, bullet journaling, art journaling, even scrapbooking. Explore these methods and pick the one or ones that best aligns with your spirit!
4. Step 4 (Self-Love): This might be the most important step, but having self-love is equal to feminine energy. You use it to “fill” the wounds of the soul scars after you have removed them. Realize that your love is the highest love. Explore yourself, know yourself, forgive yourself, accept yourself, work on yourself, heal yourself, and finally love yourself!
5. Step 5 (Professional Therapy): I always highly encourage professional therapy! They are able to supply techniques that can aid in your self-healing. For finding affordable therapy, ask your job’s HR department if mental health benefits are offered. Ask your insurance provider the same. Look on the directory findtreatment.gov. Utilize apps like betterhelp.com for 24/7 aid. For becoming comfortable with therapist, again move at your own pace. Vet out providers that seem to offer what you need. If you feel uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to end contact. 
6. Step 6 (Spirituality): I always highly encourage spirituality as well. However, this may look to you, organized religion, your own beliefs and practices, or a general sense of something greater. Having faith can bring a great pleasure and well-being to your life.

Just remember, this takes time!

Healing is never instant, believe me, I wish it were. This is a journey. May take months, years, decades, or lifelong. But do not let that discourage you. You just taking the vow “I am going to reclaim my feminine energy” already puts you ahead.

We are all in this together, I am on my healing journey. We are all sisters, let’s be there for each other on this great path called life!